"And Allah loves as-Sabirun (the patient)."
الحمدلله عدد ما كان وعدد ما يكون وعدد الحركات والسكون
لا إله إلا الله محمد رسول الله
استغفر الله و اتوب إليه
لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله
الحمد لله رب العالمين
سبحان الله و بحمده سبحان الله العظيم
اللهم صل و سلم على نبينا محمد
سبحان الله عدد خلقه و رضا نفسه و زنة عرشه و مداد كلماته
Aww thank you! I’m happy you like my blog <3 I hope you have an awesome wedding and a wonderful marriage In Sha Allah! Don’t be nervous dear, just have faith in Allah Sibhanih wa Ta’ala that everything will be alright <3
You’ll be in my prayers, and hopefully everyone else who reads this will include you in their duaa’s! I wish you all the best dear :)
I know I’m not posting as much! I will start posting more soon In Sha Allah, I’m just super super busy with work and my studies! But feel free to ask me questions and i’ll try my best to answer as soon as possible!
I think that you shouldn’t think of yourself as a “push over”. You just have a kind heart.
I believe that It’s better to forgive others, because how do can we expect Allah Sibhanih wa Ta’ala to forgive us for our sins if we refuse to forgive others? (obviously this depends on what the person did, but either way it’s better to forgive and move on. You don’t have to keep talking to the person as you did before. You simply forgive them and move on.)
Now, if someone does you wrong ( for example curses at you or physically abuses you) you have the right to defend yourself, but you can’t take a greater action than theirs. ( for example of the person punched you once you can’t punch them twice … ‘an eye for an eye’ as people say) but it’s better to simply say “May Allah forgive you” or something in that context and walk away.
What did this girl do to you and your family that was so disrespectful? If you’d like to be more “assertive” simply tell her that you’ve forgiven her for what she had done, but you don’t want to interact with her anymore. You’re not being mean by doing so, if she takes this badly then that’s her problem not yours.
You’re not a pushover, your ability to let go of the past is a gift and strength. So many people wish they could forgive and let go of all that anger.
I’ve had so many people in my life that had disrespect me and acted wrongfully towards be, but i forgave them. Some I’m still friends with, some are no longer my friends yet i don’t completely ignore them.
If someone does you wrong defend yourself, but if you believe that the situation isn’t worth all the drama then forgive and move on, and that in no way makes you a pushover.
Personally i know that it’s hard to not interact with guys especially in school, university, and work. My views are very different than a lot of people, i am no muslim scholar, and I’m really not one to give advice.
Personally, i interacted with guys in university, work, and school, but I do not interact with guys that are perverts or ones that show signs that they want something more. As long as your sister isn’t talking about inappropriate topics, isn’t alone with a guy, and does not interact physically (touching a guy and etc.) I think that it’s ok. Personally i don’t interact with guys out of university, work or school, but i don’t judge people that do.
Try to be a role model for you sister, and try getting closer to her. Don’t judge her harshly, instead show her how you act, and tell her what you think without getting into a huge fight. Listen to her opinions too because every human being is different.
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